TAKING SEX OUT OF THE BEDROOM:
10 EXOTIC SITES FOR EROTIC TRYSTS
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by Harold von Kursk
GQ
One of the most frequent complaints from couples is
that sex tends to lose much of its urgency and
intensity after several years. The fierce passion
which makes for hot sex often wanes over time and
according to psychologists is one of the main reasons
behind so many broken relationships and divorces.
Maintaining excitement in the bedroom is not the
only challenge - sometimes it may be necessary to take
the (sexual) excitement out of the bedroom and
generate erotic heat farther afield. Whether it's on
the couch, on top of the bathroom sink, or rolling in
ecstasy amid the sand dunes or on a beach, sex
definitely can take on added erotic tension when
couples think more creatively about where and when
they pleasure each other.
The main point is that bedroom sex can become a
numbing routine where couples feel a sense of
obligation or predictable destiny when it comes to an
activity which by its very nature should be
spontaneous and unpredictable. The best sex is that
of pure rapture where each partner loses him or
herself in the act, alebit governed by the attention
to detail which ensures that each partner achieves
orgasmic release according to one's needs and
preferences.
Having said that, GQ has decided to identify 10 exotic
places in order to help inspire you to take the
boredom out of (bedroom) sex and help men turn their
partners onto a higher form of sexual experience. But
having said this, we should also be careful to dispose
ourselves of traditional sexual stereotypes wherein
women are supposed to seek tender, loving care at all
times while men are presumed to be driven by reckless
lust and predatory instincts that fail to satisfy
female needs.
For some women, sex must be a deeply mystical
experience akin to receiving a private communiqué from
God, and there are those men for whom sex is a
pleasant form of exercise, a kind of kinky aerobic
session where the bedroom replaces the weight room.
Then again, any women enjoy aggressive sexual
behaviour at times just as men can find great pleasure
in romance, foreplay, and extended sessions of sexual
ecstasy. Most serious sociological studies have shown
that university-educated men and women are becoming
increasingly aware of their partners' needs and sexual
preferences. But that doesn't mean that we are
becoming as open and brave about communicating our
deepest sexual desires to our partners as we should,
simply because sex still remains shrouded in taboo and
embarrassment. When it comes to sex, let us examine
the wisdom of no less an authority than the legendary
Hollywood satyr Jack Nicholson:
"Good sex always has an element of play or
recklessness to it. The first time a man and woman
begin ripping each other's clothes off is about as
intense an experience as you can find. We spend a lot
of time trying to deny that we have sexual energy."
Perhaps what we have here, to borrow from the fabled
line in the film COOL HAND LUKE, is a failure to
communicate our deeper sexual desires! Perhaps we
need to explore our sexual longings with greater
clarity and openness!
So in the interests of recharging your sex life and
following Jack's prescription for greater sexual
recklessness, GQ proposes the following changes of
location to restore a measure of mystery and allure to
sex. But remember - we can only suggest the location,
it's up to you to revel in your own sexual
excitations.
1. THE MILE HIGH CLUB - AIRPLANE SEX
Those who have tried it report that one of the most
exotic and ultimate places for sex is the airplane,
entitling those risqué practitioners to membership in
the rather exclusive "Mile High Club."
The best occasions for sex at 10,000 meters are long
overnight flights during which most of the passengers
are asleep and the flight crew are busy chatting in
the service areas. This provides the ideal
opportunity to sneak off into the cramped washroom for
some intense and furtive sex. The easiest position is
where the woman sits on the sink and the man
penetrates her from the front, or she leans over the
sink and you take her from the rear. Other positions
are sitting on the toilet and allowing her to blow
you. But no matter what position you take, there is a
tremendously naughty feeling that comes from having
sex in a relatively public yet isolated space.
Another way of getting off after take-off is when
you're sitting next to your partner (or manage to
seduce the one you happen to be seated next to,
especially in the more isolated business class) and
you decide to engage in some mutual pleasuring - using
one's hands to full advantage. Most women report that
there is an intense pleasure in being brought to
orgasm this way while being under tremendous pressure
NOT to moan or otherwise scream!
2. OFFICE SEX
Imagine that you're working late one night at the
office. It's dark outside, almost all the lights on
your floor are off, and you think you're alone. And
then you spot Paola, the impossibly sexy co-worker,
making herself a cup of coffee in the office kitchen.
She's wearing one of her favourite white silk shirts,
a short black skirt, and looking very bored. This is
the perfect occasion to practice a little office
seduction.
You start chatting, you take the coffee cup out of her
hand, and begin kissing her, finally unbuttoning that
silk blouse you've been dying to take off ever since
the president hired her as his executive assistant.
She jumps on you and wraps her legs around your waist.
You carry her into the president's office and begin
having sex on his immaculate wooden desk overlooking
the city skyline. Both of you notice some people from
the office building across the street are able to make
out your bodily shapes while bathed in the dim light
coming from the street. You're having too much fun to
pay any attention and keeping screwing until you're
both too exhausted for more.
3. MUSEUM SEX
Have you ever seen Alfred Hitchcock's classic film,
VERTIGO? One of that movie's most fabled scenes takes
place in a museum where Jimmy Stewart is secretly
following Kim Novak from one room to another, studying
her in silence as she wanders from one painting to
another. Try taking your girlfriend to a museum late
one afternoon after work when it's quiet and the
museum guards are starting to lock up. After you've
bathed yourself in the silent, serene ambience of the
magnificent art which surrounds you, find a space
which the guards have already left believing that
everyone has gone. Then begin tenderly kissing her on
the back of the neck, fondling her breasts from
behind, before turning her around and passionately
embracing her face to face. You lower her onto the
flat wooden bench in the middle of the hall and begin
making love. (Because of the museum's typically marble
or stone floors, it's easy to hear the footsteps of
anyone who might approach and intrude on your
privacy.) You revel in the unique stillness of the
location, and draw on the staggering creativity of the
art which overlooks your sensual coupling.
4. ELEVATOR SEX
You find yourself at a dinner party with your
girlfriend where the conversation tends to bore you
beyond belief. She loves chatting with her friends and
pays no attention to your sense of quiet frustration.
Suddenly, it's 4 in the morning, the party is over,
you say nothing, and both of you drive quietly home
along the virtually empty city streets. She looks
annoyed and complains about how little you've spoken
the entire evening. Then, once you've parked in front
of your building, you find yourself taking the
old-fashioned elevator with those metal grill doors up
to your fifth-floor flat. You press the "stop" button
and begin kissing her. She wonders what you're doing.
You remain silent. You aggressively being pulling off
her clothes and get down on your knees and pull off
her panties and start licking her. Later, you enter
her and your combined motions rhythmically bang
against the metal grill walls of the elevator,
creating a symphony of sex in your building. You hear
neighbours banging on the doors and screaming for
silencio. You and your girlfriend contunue to pump
away and have some of the best sex in years.
5. SHOWER SEX
The shower is potentially one of the most erotic
places in the home. I can still remember seeing the
naked outline of a new girlfriend's figure through the
glass doors of my shower after our first night
together. I remember the sound of the water, the
steam, and secretly watching her soap herself and take
the shower head to wash herself slowly and elegantly.
Ever since then, I have always regarded the shower as
a major source of erotic inspiration. Taking me up on
my moment of epiphany, try surprising your girlfriend
one evening or morning when she's leisurely taking a
shower. You join her without warning and just imagine
the two of you enjoying the subtle sensual appeal of
the water pouring down on you while you take turns
going down on each other. Alternatively, try entering
her from the rear while fondling her breasts as the
water drips off her and you gently but urgently bite
her on the neck.
6. CLOSET SEX
Parties are one of the best places to meet new women.
The combination of alcohol, loud music, and the
revealing dresses and generally liberated atmosphere
are all conducive to stimulating desire and amplifying
our underlying craving for sex. Whether you're with
your girlfriend or you meet an exceptionally desirable
woman at the event, sex on the site is an intriguing
and highly attrative possibility. The main problem,
however, is the absence of an unoccupied corner or
room or even balcony where you might want to enjoy a
quick yet highly charged moment of rapture. That makes
the closet (presumably one with clothes rather than
sharp objects) a potential source of heightened sexual
pleasure. The sheer surprise value is sure to turn on
your companion, while the possible threat of being
discovered by an unexpected intruder looms as a
secondary source of furtive sexual tension. Just the
thought of humping in the dark amid coats, jackets,
and other materials while knowing that the other party
guests are possibly just a few meters away is definite
turn-on for any woman and one which is sure to enhance
your reputation in her eyes. Then bask in the knowing
glances when you exit the closet and rejoin the party
crowd - no one will know exactly why you will both be
smiling so much!
7. CEMETARY SEX
Though it may not strike one as particularly inviting
at first, the cemetary has an unusually high amount of
value as a kinky sex site. Think of hot summer night
where you and your girlfriend are driving back from a
night out on the town. Instead of going back home and
lazily drifting towards the bedroom, take that little
side street which makes your partner ask you why you
have suddenly gone off the main road. You tell her
it's a surprise. And it will be! You drive by a
wonderfully mysterious and tree-bounded cemetary,
which looks straight out of an Edgar Allen Poe story.
You persuade her to climb over the fence and take a
tour through the valley of the dead. It's dark and
more than a little strange to be walking past the
gravestones. Then you spot a suitably large marble
slab which you playfully suggest would make an unusual
spot for an evening of wild sex. It will make for a
cool and kinky night of pure pleasure.
8. BEACH SEX (SEX AMONGST THE DEAD)
Amongst the most romantic of possibilities for taking
sex out of the bedroom remains the beach. Sandy,
wind-swept, accompanied by the sound of the waves
relentlessly crashing on the shore, the beach has
always been held in high esteem by romantic couples.
Ever since Burt Lancaster and Deborah Kerr made love
on the beach in FROM HERE TO ETERNITY, sex by the
seaside has offered a powerful lure for pleasure.
Take your girlfriend on a long walk on a deserted
beach, with the sun fading into the horizon. Perhaps
you've brought along a fine bottle of wine and
sandwiches, maybe even a candle - it all portends well
for a romantic session of exotic lovemaking amongst
the sand and the surf. Suggest that you take your
clothes off and walk naked into the sea. Begin kissing
her and stroking her clitoris while she strokes your
penis. Then come back on shore and enjoy a powerful
evening of high-octane sex. Pour some wine on her
breasts and lick it off them.
9. KITCHEN SEX
There has long been a strong connection between food
and sex. Both offer oral pleasures, both stimulate
the taste glands, and both activities offer intense
pleasure. Thus, one should never deny the potential
which the kitchen offers to combine both activities.
One night when your partner (or perhaps you, too, if
you have some expertise in culinary preparation) is
preparing a fine feast, you decide to play a more
active role in the kitchen than you ever have before.
But this time you grab her from behind, and begin
kissing her with the kind of intensity you might not
have shown in some time. You make every caress count,
you take off her top, remove her skirt and prop her up
on the kitchen counter while you remove your pants and
prepare to enter her. Alternatively, you may choose
to apply one of the most remarkable sexual aids ever
invented - canned whipping cream - to add a little
topping to your sex life. Take turns eating each
other, spraying it on her nipples and pubis, and
taking advantage of the unexpected momentum of the
occasion to make this one dinner that both of you will
never forget. (You might even want to use the dinner
table as a fitting conclusion to your sexual feast!)
10. SEX ON A BOAT
There are few more visually stimulating environments
than being on a boat in the middle of the sea staring
out into the infinite horizon. Try renting (if you
don't already own) a luxury boat (8 meter is nice, 10
meter is nicer) and arranging to take your loved one
on a small cruise up the coast or to some romantic
destination away from your usual surroundings. You
will find that being alone on a boat, taking sun,
drinking, eating, and finding yourself totally at ease
with the world is one of the greatest gifts you can
give yourself. The rocking motion of the boat, the
pure isoaltion, the utter quiet, sense of being lost
on the watery horizon - these are the ingredients of a
supremely exotic sexual setting. Making love on a
series of soft cushions on the deck of a boat in the
middle of a vast ocean expanse under the setting sun
is perhaps as truly beatific and erotic as one can
command a setting for sex. So take your woman out for
the kind of pleasure cruise that may truly be a
once-in-a-lifetime experience. Then again, this kind
of setting is so sensually stimulating that once will
never be enough!
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